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hi
just a bit of advice to anyone who might find themselves in this unfortunate position...
my dad has alzheimers and he has been mentally ill for a while now receiving treatment in a hospital. yesterday me and my 18 year old brother attended a final meeting to find out whether the state would help fund his care home.
the answer was no, he did not qualify for any help! so as a result, they are to put an order on his house to pay for the care home (upto 1000 per week) in other words all his lifes work counts for nothing..
my mum died 12 years ago at 45 of breast cancer and her only consolation in death was that my brother and i would at least have the family home for our future. not now we dont. i tend to be philisophical over things like this. its the only way to help but there is a tinge of resentment to our present government. it seems ironic that the party who my dad put his loyalty and trust in, is the ones who have shafted him. i wouldnt have minded if we had to pay half and they contributed half but to lose everything when a person who doesnt have a home gets all their care home costs paid, doesnt seem to be fair. dont get me wrong if your poor then i agree they should be helped but if they have played the game, then where is the justice in someone like my dad losing everything. hes paid tax and ni all his life and employed many people but hes not got alot his only wish was to leave something for his kids...
i have looked after him for 2 years now, lost alot of work and as a result went bankrupt last october 2006. i dont get a penny from anyone, never have. i have always been a positive hard working fella who would do anything for anyone but i feel a bit confused today. it was my brothers 18th birthday yesterday and to sit in on an official meeting and find out this news on his birthday really pi88ed me off.
but theres one thing in life at 38 i have found is, keeping going. dont let situations chew you up. get up dust yourself down and keep going. this forum represents alot of hope for me because its full of good people who are in the same boat all will try to help and cheer you up when the going gets tough. i will continue to help people in any way i can . no way i am i going to adopt the current trend that seems to be around of me me me attitude.
so the advice i started with is.....put your house in your childrens name as soon as you can. they cant take your house if its in your childrens name 7 years before your diagnosed with mental illness. that way they cant do to you , what theyve done to us! if you live in scotland then you dont have to worry, your country seems to look after its sick people :0)
sorry to burden you all with this but if our loss is someones gain on this forum then theres some consolation and good to come out of this . i am just looking forward to continuing learning and setting up a new life in australia with my wife, 3 kids and brother in the next 18 months to 2 years and putting the last 12 years to rest. living on the sun, doing a job i will love and being healthy and happy is all i want in life, oh and to leave a home for their future?
onwards and upwards hey
regards
ed
just a bit of advice to anyone who might find themselves in this unfortunate position...
my dad has alzheimers and he has been mentally ill for a while now receiving treatment in a hospital. yesterday me and my 18 year old brother attended a final meeting to find out whether the state would help fund his care home.
the answer was no, he did not qualify for any help! so as a result, they are to put an order on his house to pay for the care home (upto 1000 per week) in other words all his lifes work counts for nothing..
my mum died 12 years ago at 45 of breast cancer and her only consolation in death was that my brother and i would at least have the family home for our future. not now we dont. i tend to be philisophical over things like this. its the only way to help but there is a tinge of resentment to our present government. it seems ironic that the party who my dad put his loyalty and trust in, is the ones who have shafted him. i wouldnt have minded if we had to pay half and they contributed half but to lose everything when a person who doesnt have a home gets all their care home costs paid, doesnt seem to be fair. dont get me wrong if your poor then i agree they should be helped but if they have played the game, then where is the justice in someone like my dad losing everything. hes paid tax and ni all his life and employed many people but hes not got alot his only wish was to leave something for his kids...
i have looked after him for 2 years now, lost alot of work and as a result went bankrupt last october 2006. i dont get a penny from anyone, never have. i have always been a positive hard working fella who would do anything for anyone but i feel a bit confused today. it was my brothers 18th birthday yesterday and to sit in on an official meeting and find out this news on his birthday really pi88ed me off.
but theres one thing in life at 38 i have found is, keeping going. dont let situations chew you up. get up dust yourself down and keep going. this forum represents alot of hope for me because its full of good people who are in the same boat all will try to help and cheer you up when the going gets tough. i will continue to help people in any way i can . no way i am i going to adopt the current trend that seems to be around of me me me attitude.
so the advice i started with is.....put your house in your childrens name as soon as you can. they cant take your house if its in your childrens name 7 years before your diagnosed with mental illness. that way they cant do to you , what theyve done to us! if you live in scotland then you dont have to worry, your country seems to look after its sick people :0)
sorry to burden you all with this but if our loss is someones gain on this forum then theres some consolation and good to come out of this . i am just looking forward to continuing learning and setting up a new life in australia with my wife, 3 kids and brother in the next 18 months to 2 years and putting the last 12 years to rest. living on the sun, doing a job i will love and being healthy and happy is all i want in life, oh and to leave a home for their future?
onwards and upwards hey
regards
ed
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