past loved ones at christmas.

[DHTiling]

Just got in from avin a good drink with some great company this afternoon... Dave from PHG and faithy..


Then i read Gisela's thread about her Dad.. and this brings home a few things,, christmas is really a happy place but also a place that memories of loved ones come flooding back..

So.. please.. lets have a couple mins to think about what might have been and what will be..

ALL the best from ME and mine..
Thankyou..

 

[doug boardley]

yep, in a few days it will be one year since my mum passed away too, you've just gotta keep on going though even though it seems hard at the time.

 

[DHTiling]

I.. remember Doug... my thoughts mate..

 

[user123]

Yes, I remember, too, Doug, actually there was something the other day I can't remember right now and I thought, your Mum would have liked that, something about being spirited ... and that makes me think, it really is not how long we live or when we die, it's how we live ... that's all what's important in the end...

 

[doug boardley]

Yes, I remember, too, Doug, actually there was something the other day I can't remember right now and I thought, your Mum would have liked that, something about being spirited ... and that makes me think, it really is not how long we live or when we die, it's how we live ... that's all what's important in the end...

I think it was the sledge that I made out of mums zimmer frame Gisela It never really performed as I thought it would tho',,,,needs a bit of tweaking methinks

 

[Stewart]

And all the best to you and yours Dave.

It's been 25 years since my farther died at the age of 46 and I still think of him most days and wonder if I would have made him proud. He was a big family man and it always gets to me..... knowing he never got to meet his grandchildren.

 

[DHTiling]

And all the best to you and yours Dave.

It's been 25 years since my farther died at the age of 46 and I still think of him most days and wonder if I would have made him proud. He was a big family man and it always gets to me..... knowing he never got to meet his grandchildren.

Well knowing of your presence on tilers forums,, and if that is anything to go by, then your Dad would be a very proud man.

 

[Scott]

Its a tough and emotional time for all that has lost loved ones but even more so when the time is close to Christmas as its a constant reminder of sad things and not the happiness usually associated with this time of year.

My thoughts are with you all and ill think of us all when i light my turquoise candle on Christmas day to remember my sister who will be missing from the table.

 

[user123]

I think it was the sledge that I made out of mums zimmer frame Gisela It never really performed as I thought it would tho',,,,needs a bit of tweaking methinks

No after that, I remember now, it was an old lady on TV, I still can't think of what on earth I watched though, she was full of character and young at heart, and I thought of your Mum ... you described her well, I feel I knew her, if that makes sense...

 

[doug boardley]

No after that, I remember now, it was an old lady on TV, I still can't think of what on earth I watched though, she was full of character and young at heart, and I thought of your Mum ... you described her well, I feel I knew her, if that makes sense...

well she certainly touched a lot of people Gisela, she would've loved to have met you as she really loved art and philosophy:gossip:

 

[DHTiling]

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[doug boardley]

Also Gisela, I think that mum will be smiling at what I've bought today with some of the money she left me,
a) a nice vehicle to do the work I love doing and provide for my family
b) a lovely large dining table that extends to seat 10, we always had meals at the table and talked about our day
c) a big 9 seater leather corner sofa so we can all comfortably spend our evenings together

still got a bit to get through but next is a caravan for holidays

 

[faithhealer]

we lost wifeys Mum a couple of Xmas eves ago so mixed feelings here tomorrow

 

[user123]

I'm NOT going to do this, the mixed feeling thing because of a date. Why put so much onus on the day, it doesn't do anyone any good. Would the people who die around Christmas want us to have a ruined Christmas forever?? Of course not. Be sad that they are gone, and be happy that they were alive, but to put sentiment on a date is just wrong, dates don't matter. Lives do. And all of us and the people we love and are alive with us, we have living to do, we must enjoy and cherish what we have. Please.

 

[doug boardley]

My brother always feels a bit down on Xmas day.....it's his birthday so he only gets half as many prezzies each year!

 

[user123]

I can imagine!!

 

[albyshellshear]

And all the best to you and yours Dave.

It's been 25 years since my farther died at the age of 46 and I still think of him most days and wonder if I would have made him proud. He was a big family man and it always gets to me..... knowing he never got to meet his grandchildren.

Same hear 25 years ago my Dad passed he was 47 and a loud proud family man I hope I can fill half of his boots

 

[albyshellshear]

I'm NOT going to do this, the mixed feeling thing because of a date. Why put so much onus on the day, it doesn't do anyone any good. Would the people who die around Christmas want us to have a ruined Christmas forever?? Of course not. Be sad that they are gone, and be happy that they were alive, but to put sentiment on a date is just wrong, dates don't matter. Lives do. And all of us and the people we love and are alive with us, we have living to do, we must enjoy and cherish what we have. Please.

I Agree totaly Giz celibrate there lives not there deaths think of all the good times that made you smile and have a place in your heart, then raise a glass and cheer the good old times

 

[Aston]

yes, its a hard time of the year when you have lost close family..

1975, my grandad died at christmas, then 6 weeks later my uncle was punched by his best mate, he hit his head on the railing and died in my nan living room floor infront of me. i was 6 at the time.

lost my mum in 1995, she was 45 and left a five year old boy behind. then six months later lost my uncle, aunty, nan.

my wifes dad died 10 years ago this christmas, we had the funeral the day after boxing day 2000. tore my wifes heart out..

my nan has a little line in the book of rememberance that reads....

' To live in the hearts of those you love, is not to die'..... sums everything up for me!! they cant die when they leave so much love can they?