8mm notch will be fine so long as your walls aren't all over the show. You don't need to worry about the adhesive compressing down to 1mm as when fitted, the trim won't have that amount of adhesive under it, when pressed into the back of the tile it will sit almost flush to the back of it. You'll see what we all mean when you fit them. Don't go any deeper than a 10mm trim or you'll be building adhesive up an unnecessary amount.