Fathers death.......moving on

[Ajax123]

Hi

I am currently trying to get to grips with my fathers death yesterday. I won't say it was sudden and unexpected but it was still a shock after a short illness. I managed to spend some time with him and made him a promise that I would look after my mum after he had gone.

Anyway I am now trying to fulfill my promise and am going through paperwork. I have a problem though with pensions and benefits. I have been fortunate enough to have never had to use the benefits system at all.

She is in her late 60's and is on state pension. It appears that for the last 20 or 30 years my dad did all of the household administration, accounts etc etc etc. I have managed to find most of the paperwork but one thing is really baffling me and I won't sleep if I have to think about it all night.

I have read on the internet that as she is on state pension she will automatically get a bereavement payment once the benefits office has been notified of his death - presumably by me. Anyway, and this might sound really thick, I can't work out if the department for work and pensions is the same thing as the benefits office.

 

[nybor62]

very sorry to her about your father

 

[Gazzer]

Sorry to hear about this.
My friends dad died last year and they had a lot of problems getting help to sort out money. Quite a few journeys to court were involved.

 

[doug boardley]

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss Alan, perhaps the Citizens Advice Bureau will give you all the information you'll need to sift through the relevant paperwork. Losing parents is a tough time and you don't need the added burden of administration when you should be grieving. Give the CAB a call, they really will be only too willing to help you.

 

[Gazrus]

Sorry to here of your loss, our thoughts are with you & your family

 

[White Room]

My condolences Alan

I have no idea either..

 

[Ian]

Hope someone can offer the advice you need. Sorry to hear of your loss.

 

[DHTiling]

Al.. My thoughts go out to you mate.. so so sorry for your loss.. . look after yourself mate and your mam..

Dave.

 

[hillhead]

Sorry to hear this Alan, give the CAB a ring as above.

 

[Alan.P]

Sorry to hear of your Fathers death, there was a program on the other week that dealt with people in the situation you and your Mother, I can't think what the heck it was at the moment. if I can think of it I'll post it,, iirc it was work and pensions ????

 

[Deleted member 9966]

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news Alan. I have no idea what you must be going through.

I have just been on the Direct.gov.uk website and found this link
Bereavement Payment : Directgov - Money, tax and benefits

You can download the Bereavement Pack via a pdf, and that should hopefully tell you everything you need to know.

As far as I am aware, the Department for Work and Pensions now operate their payments via the Jobcentre which is also known as the benefits office because that's where you have to go to claim benefits.

I hope this helps.

 

[strummerman]

so sorry to hear of your loss . there is a leaflet you can get from the cab it explains all for you hope it helps

 

[stevee]

sorry to hear that mucker, hope u and your mum feel better soon

 

[chrisroe]

Sorry to hear this news
Welcome to one of the S*** ist clubs in the world but give it time and the bad memories will disolve and the good ones will keep re appearing at v strange times but they will make you smile. Glad you had time with him at the end count yourself lucky some dont . I did get time with my Dad and managed to tell him about my Wife expecting our 2nd kid and we also had a giggle about all the trouble we have both caused my mom over the years those few moments do help over the next few months
i can only give you bits of help but its better than nowt i hope

Registring the death ( No nice phrase for this ) Get plenty of copies of the Death Cert if there is going to be lots of paperwork to fill out to claim money / power of attorney etc its cheaper to do this when your in the office than at a later date and less hassle
Photocopy all important docs as some firms like to lead you on a goose chase hoping you will give up

Dont try to do it in one go take your time as your brain is probably flying at the moment and will not do things logically

Good luck and just take a little look up

 

[SandyFloor]

Sorry to hear of your loss Alan. It just seems so unfair having to deal with these issues while you're still really hurting. My thoughts are with you and your family.