Fathers death.......moving on

[user123]

I empathize, Alan, I have just gone through all this myself, so know exactly where you are coming from and the paper hassle that goes with it, unfortunately mine was all in German, so can't help you, really. But it is good - however puzzling, frustrating and painful - to deal with it all for your Mum's sake, it does help to feel useful through it all, that was my conclusion anyhow.

Good luck to you, I am sure you are doing a agreat job, be a little easy on yourself, hugs to you and your Mum.

 

[tommyzooom]

My deepest sympathies to you and your Mam

 

[The Legend; Phil Hobson RIP]

As above Alan, sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you and your mum can take comfort from your family and friends.

Regards, Phil.

 

[Aston]

sorry to hear this sad news alan
my thoughts and prayers are with you and your mum
its a hard time but one day at a time hey mate

deepest sympathies
Ed - Astontiling

 

[CJ]

Commiserations Ajax

 

[Dan]

So sorry to hear of your loss Alan. Download the thing Liz points to and whatnot, that'll probably be exactly what you're looking for. However as the lads said too, CAB will take a lot of pressure off you and they will be listened to quickly by all those being contacted by them, so no messing around for you. They'll know when they're having the wool pulled over their eyes right from the start.

 

[kilty55]

sorry to hear of your loss alan,thoughts are with you and your family

 

[The D]

very sorry to hear of your loss Alan m8.

 

[Pebbs]

So sorry to hear this news Alan, I know you will do the best by your dad and look after your mum.

Lynn

 

[tfs]

Hi Alan, I feel for your loss. Like may others on the forum I have experienced the loss of a loved one and understand to some extent what you are feeling just now. I hope you get the financial tasks and other formalities over with as smoothly as possible so that you can have the time to grieve for your great loss and not have to loose sleep over other issues. I hope that the near future brings some happieness to you and your family. I always try to remember the good experiences and memmories of those lost and try to use these experiences to better the life of those left behind.

 

[suave]

sorry to hear of your loss m8

 

[Daz]

Very sad news Alan, my condolences mate to you and your family.
Good luck with getting everything sorted out.

Daz

 

[Ajax123]

Thanks for all the nice things and the helpful comments. I am actually remarkably calm after a few days of real gut wrenching sadness. As MG says though it is good to feel useful as for the last week or so I and the rest of the family have felt totally useless. There is only one thing which will really haunt me for many years and that was the look of complete desolation and defeat which came across my dads face when the doctor finally told him he was in complete renal failure, having fought bravely for 6 weeks to overcome his problems, and would not be getting better. Sad sad time but am sure that time is a great healer. Just like him though he was chatting up the young lady doctors and telling rude jokes to the nurses right up till the last few hours when he said to my mum that he was not going to come home and that he would meet her again on the third time round the universe. He died peacefully and without pain on Sunday Morning. He went just before we got back to the hospital having had that fateful call - I was convinced the old bu@@er did not want the embarassment of popping his clogs in front of anyone.

Sorry - I'll stop rambling now but it is good to talk sometimes even if it is in type......

Thanks for your help guys and gals

 

[devonmark]

sorry to hear of your loss, my grandad died last year and same as your dad did he did all the household finances (67yrs married) my nan never had a clue and neither did any of us as we were fortunate to have not been on benefits, we spoke to the benefits helpline and they were very helpful.

 

[CJ CERAMICS]

my sincerest condolences to you and your family.